Expectations: Why We Are Where We Are and Deserve What We Have.

I suppose you've heard the expression, “You get what you deserve”. There may be some truth to it but I believe a more accurate statement is, “You get what you expect”.

Of course, there's a problem with this line of thinking in today's world. You see, if You get what you deserve, you might just be victim of bad luck. But, if You get what you expect, you not only get what you deserve, you get what you have earned!

Come on, Mr. Lazy, what exactly are you saying?

I am telling you that, at the end of each day, you are exactly where you should be, even if that's not where you want to be.

Huh? Now I'm really confused!

All right, let me see if I can make sense out of this. A wise man I once worked for told me his managers and employees always performed to their level of expectations. If they expected to sell twice as much as last year, they did. If they expected to fail in their sales calls, they did. If one employee expected to outperform all the rest, that person did.

Some years ago the famous baseball player, Mickey Mantle, came to bat against a knuckleball pitcher named Hoyt Wilhelm. Hoyt had huge hands, he would curl four fingers up against the baseball, dig his fingernails in and loft a ball that went only about fifty miles an hour but traveled such an erratic course to home plate that it was almost impossible to hit. For a home run hitter like Mickey Mantle, who always took a large swing, it was impossible to hit. On this summer day, Mickey came to bat carrying a tennis racket instead of a baseball bat. The umpire stopped him before he stepped into the plate and said, Mickey, you cant use that, its against the rules. Mickey replied, I cant hit his pitch with a baseball bat so I might as well try this. Mickey Mantle, one of the truly great home run hitters of all time, expected to fail against Hoyt Wilhelm, and he did.

I get email letters almost daily from those who are considering the purchase of my Guide, “Take a Really Fast Drive down the Lazy Road to Truly Great Wealth!(purchase details here), letters that begin with the words: “I've failed before and just want to make sure I won't fail again”. Or “Are you just another scam?” or “I know none of these get- rich-quick methods really work but I'm hoping” or my favorite, “I'll bet you won't reply to me because the stuff you are selling is a fraud and you are a fraud” and on and on. What do you think these writers expect? And why do you think they failed in the past?

Exactly, they are so used to failing that they expect to fail. My purpose here is not to tell you I deal with a bunch of failures, because I don't think it is entirely their fault. We live in a world in which the media and the public reward failure. My mother used to tell me the really nice things in life, the real luxuries were “for other people”. If you watch the evening news you might see a homeless person celebrated for struggling and failing, but its unlikely you will hear about the troubles a wealthy person suffers, even if those troubles might be as great or greater than that of the homeless person.

If you watch those idiotic day time shows you will see a parade of losers ranging from the hopelessly overweight to the mentally unbalanced to the criminal to the horribly insecure to what does it matter, television presents a society unable to think well, act well, or do well. And then blames it on society. Huh?

To make matters worse, we have become a society dependent on drugs to make our lives tolerable. For some reason we, the public, seem to believe we need to go to the doctor for every minor inconvenience, and that we better have full health insurance because we are just one illness away from prolonged death? We are told we cant help our obesity; it is McDonalds fault for supersizing their food and then, apparently, forcing us to eat every single large bite.

When it rains every television station puts up Storm Watch so that we can prepare for the inevitable disastrous mudslides. When a natural disaster strikes anywhere, it is presented as if the entire state or region has suffered. And when a company lays off a hundred workers we are told the American job is disappearing.

It is really easy to be seduced by unhappy expectations. That the bad news. The good news is that you don't have to be. Think about it logically: How many of those national disasters have happened to you? How often have you been one sneeze away from death? When is the last time you put on a pound by not eating? When is the last time you got in better shape by not exercising?

And when was the last time you made money by following bad or incomplete advice, or by not working, or by not educating yourself?

Before you get mad at me you should know I could be writing about myself. I used to watch the world go by from a distance, convinced that good things only happen to others. I was convinced it took mostly luck to make it big in America. The luckiest thing, of course, would be to be born rich. Well, that didn't happen. Second luckiest would be to win big in Vegas or get the winning lottery ticket. Well, those big hotels in Vegas are built from the wallets of those who honestly believe they have a chance, and the lucky lotto numbers have never come my way. The next luckiest thing would be to invent something really special, like the paper clip, or beer, or a life saving drug. But, come on, what are the odds you will ?

But, despite all the bad news, lots of people have done pretty well. Oh, very few us will—or even want to—live a life like Donald Trump or the Kennedy's or Bill Gates or any of the super rich. Most of us really don't want to be bigger than life, we just want to stop worrying about money every single day of the week. And we really wish we could stop worrying today.

So how do we get a better life? We begin by expecting a better life and expecting to do what is necessary to make our lives better. If you own my Guide, “Take a Really Fast Drive down the Lazy Road to Truly Great Wealth!” you know that I never compromise my demand that you follow the free Assignments I offer you.

If you order my Guide shouldn't you have enough information to succeed? Well, let me ask you this, if you went to school as you grew up shouldn't you have enough information to be successful? It is one thing to know what to do, quite another to know how to do it. Lets go back to Mickey Mantle: Do you think he knew how to hit a baseball? Of course, he was one of the greatest home run hitters in the history of the game. So why couldn't he hit the knuckleball? Because he was unable or unwilling to adjust his swing to be successful.

When I tell my students to follow the assignments, I am telling them they must adjust their approach to be successful. Some of my students are much smarter than I am, some have written better material than I have, and some start off with much more money than I started with, so why do I expect them to change? Because, despite all their intelligence, all their previous efforts, and all the money in their bank accounts, they have not discovered how to succeed. Wow!

My information letter tells how I discovered the LazyWealth™ solution while sitting in the library one morning. I also mention the solution had been right in front of me for a long, long time. And I also tell you nothing happened until I acted on the information I had.

I know some very successful and very wealthy (those two don't always go together) people, and they have common elements that separate them from everyone else:

1. They expect to learn something new every day when they get out of bed. Somewhere along the way probably from their parents they were taught that very few people are born smart enough to succeed without learning, yet almost all of us are born smart enough to succeed if we are willing to learn.

2. They expect to find a mentor (see the article on Mentors in this section) to teach them. Sometimes that mentor is an author through a book, sometimes it is a friend or a relative, sometimes it is someone with the experience and knowledge you must have, such as we offer here at LazyWealth through our Assignments and email tutoring.

3. They expect to invest in themselves. Instead of constantly complaining that they don't have enough money, they save as necessary to learn what they need. I know people who have paid a few dollars and made many, and I know some who have paid thousands and made millions. The common thread is that they invest in themselves.

4. They expect to accomplish something every day. They know that success is a process, not some instant event that magically fills your wallet. They come in with a completely open mind, pretend they know absolutely nothing, and absorb every bit of information offered.

5. They expect to be patient. They know they cant use every scrap of information they have, and they understand there are certain things they just cant do. Then they devise a plan, decide what steps to take first, and work through the entire process. Sometimes its fast, other times it is not. I have one student, for example, who knows, truly knows, he cant write. What he discovered as we went through the assignments was that he has great ideas, it is his grammar that is horrible. Well, the great American writer, John Steinbeck, had such horrible grammar that all of his writing was rejected until one editor happened to look past the punctuation into the story. And the great novel, The Grapes of Wrath, became a classic. My student assembled his ideas following the assignments, took advantage of our suggestions and then hired a local English teacher to make his writing look, as he said, pretty. It took enormous patience on his part, but he had the ability all along; now he has the belief. What a gift he gave himself.

6. Successful people expect to do everyone else's work. Whoa, Mr. Lazy, I don't think I like this! What this means is that successful people check things out, verify information, and then act on their instincts about what they should or should not do. For example, when I began I had a 66 page booklet that I planned to sell for about $30. And that seemed reasonable until I researched printing, postage and resale costs. I could have sold that 66 page booklet but would never have made a profit. When I took the time to learn the details I realized I could sell a high quality booklet half that length, add other value elsewhere, provide a better service for my students, and make more profit for me. Everybody came out better because I expected of myself to do all the work required to succeed.

7. Successful people expect to be persistent. They understand, as one professional sports manager said, The season is not a sprint, it is a marathon. So is success! You might succeed in a few days, but it will probably take longer. However, if you follow proven steps you will know that success will find you eventually.

8. Successful people know it takes perspiration. We live in a world of instant gratification, yet the achievers know effort is required to succeed. Every person I've met who is successful took the time and made the effort to learn, to study, to practice, to implement an idea or ideas. Perhaps the greatest example is Arnold Swarznegger, now governor of California but one of the worlds most successful weightlifters. He talks of having a burning desire to come to America where anyone can achieve if willing to make the effort. So he took a normal body, worked and worked and worked, and came to America on the strength of one of the worlds best bodies. Once here he invested in real estate, learned the movie business and became one of the worlds most admired and wealthiest people.

9. Successful people expect it to look easy. I am the best example of this type of thinking; after all, you are listening to Mr. Lazy, you responded to an ad that talks about a really lazy lifestyle, and you hope to live a better and easier life. But much went into my lazy lifestyle. The elements of what I do are extremely simple, but the ad you responded to was not the first rendition, the website did not fall from the sky, and my Guide did not write itself. A very special and specific formula became LazyWealth. If it was as simple as it seems I could have written a one page book that told you what it is, you could take five minutes applying it, and we would all be rich. Right now! My method is simple, but just like Mickey Mantles baseball swing that looks so fluid and so easy when he hits a home run, there are many elements that must be in place for success. I added the assignments to lead you through those elements, explain the reasons behind them, save you a ton of money, and help you have realistic expectations along the way so you can make it look easy to everyone else.

10. Successful people expect success. Sounds simple enough, doesn't it. But, once again, I remind you of my students who begin their messages to me by telling me how good they are at failing. Achievement is a lifestyle, just as much as failure. You wont usually get on television for doing well, your neighbors will be jealous, and many will think you just got lucky. But, if you constantly expect success of yourself you will do what is necessary to succeed.

Expectations are the foundation for everyone's life. But we substitute words like luck instead. If you truly want to do well, if you truly want to lead the lazy lifestyle, look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you expect more and are willing to make the effort to get more. Stop listening to others, don't let the depressing television or newspaper news dictate your lifestyle, and do something every day to make yourself more successful.

If you are going to purchase, or already have purchased my Guide, “Take a Really Fast Drive down the Lazy Road to Truly Great Wealth!” I look forward to helping you enjoy the journey to success. Actually, I expect it.

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